void-star:

Love bombing is not a euphemism for “too much affection too soon,” or “high desire for contact.”

“Love bombing” is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.

Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.

And I know these days there’s a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.

If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not “accidentally” abusing them.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.

Love bombing is about using someone’s desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control and will feel disinclined to leave.

Timeline where “flirty fishing” has been internet-sociology genericized terminology

onion-souls:

elwurd:

hungry-skeleton:

atoxicrose:

fuchinobe:

chikinan:

windycarnage:

when u have so many things u want to draw that it becomes overwhelming so u just do nothing

Ok so last week I was hanging out with a friend and he told me that, when he was a child, he used to have a vhs tape with some random tv shows on it. And he says, “you know that sheep gif? that show was on the vhs, but I can’t remember how it was called, and google isn’t helping.” so we spent the weekend trying to find it, and we did! anyways the video was made by a cult

This post sent me down an insane rabbit hole last night, the cult that made this has a thing for fantasizing about having sex with Jesus:

Cool tips for hot sex!

I have never encountered a post that legit made me feel like I’ve been punched in the chest before.

This started as a relatable artist meme but quickly turned into a horny cultist-driven train wreck

These are also the people behind that “S.O.S.” music video on RLM’s Best of the Worst

Oh shit these were the guys behind “Flirty Fishing”, the incredibly 70s practice of being an easy lay as Christian evangelism