The difference between someone who discourses on tumblr about shipping all day and someone in 1785 who sat in a pub pumping out asinine pamphlets about the hill they’re going to die on in a parasocial fight they’ve started with Burke or Rousseau or whoever over the dumbest drama you’ve ever heard is absolutely miniscule. nonexistent even. brothers in arms seperated by centuries
The right-wing hard counter to avant-garde artistic provocation isn’t banning it or suppressing it but actually just doing the Aryan chad “yes.” reaction. Demolished instantly. This is what happened to new wave in the ‘80s btw
This is your monthly reminder to go and operate every water shutoff valve in your home, including the main shutoff if you have access to it – those things do seize up if they’re not operated frequently, and you don’t want to be discovering that fact for the first time while a busted faucet handle is blasting two gallons a minute onto your kitchen floor.
Speaking from experience?
Afraid not. My experience of this particular scenario involves discovering that the kitchen sink had no shutoff valves at all, because the previous occupant was an old school do-it-yourselfer who apparently just killed the main shutoff every single time they needed to change a washer.
(As an aside, whenever you see those statistics about boomer dads having better DIY skills than their millennial counterparts, remember that a. those figures are based on self reporting, and b. boomers as a group vastly overestimate their own DIY competence, as those of us who’ve had to deal with the fruits of their labours can readily attest!)
I am a recreational Noticer. I love to Notice Things and Make Connections and Identify Patterns. This is one of my favorite activities and it requires me to behave in compulsively silly ways online.
In real life, this manifests itself by suddenly asking a coworker “so how long has your wife known about your mistress?” Because he stopped bringing in a packed lunch and I saw him scrubbing lipstick off his neck one day when he “went to the bank”
Lee says in tags that filtering feedback is a really crucial skill and they are absolutely correct.
Not every comment/critique you get will be transparently actionable or worth following as stated. And it can be really difficult to sort out what advice to take and even what it would mean to take that advice. (I mean, for instance, even after you agree that “Needs more action!” is something you should address, that could indicate a lot of different possible fixes. You have to figure out which one is going to work for your story.)
There’s no single right answer for how to sort through critiques and find some kind of useful direction in them. BUT. My rule of thumb–first, keep in mind what it is you’re trying to do, what you want your story to be. Critiquers who seem to be understanding what you’re trying to do are more likely to give advice that will help you straightforwardly–but not always.
Readers who very clearly do NOT get what you were trying to do are helpful even when their comments are completely off base. What made them read the story that way? Is that something you can or should adjust so they have a better chance of seeing what you’re doing? (Some folks just aren’t Your Readers and that’s fine, you’re not obligated to make everything obvious to those folks, but it can help in sharpening your own work, getting it across more clearly.)
Another rule of thumb–when readers note a problem, they are nearly always right that there is a problem. HOWEVER when they say what the problem is and how to fix it, they are NEARLY ALWAYS WRONG. So, let’s say your readers all trip over a particular place and tell you that you need to give them more information about X. Chances are you need to go back and cut something that made them ask the question to begin with. Or the “More action” above–do you really need more action in that spot? Or is there a pacing issue leading up to that spot? Almost always, when a reader points to where a problem is, the actual problem is actually somewhere previous.
Sorting through critiques and figuring out which ones will help you make your story more what you want it to be, and how to take that advice, is a complicated and super important skill.
Every band should be comprised of multiple romantic couples who all cheat on each other with each other and then force themselves to stay together so they can take their hate out in cocaine-fueled jam sessions because it makes for better music
would love if someone did like a documentary on the sinfest guy bc his whole like trajectory feels very like oddly symbolic of the whole confluence of weird fringe martyrdom-reactionary politics era we live in
I have a very curious question for people - have any of you had a Peanut Butter and Honey sandwich?
I grew up thinking it was 100% completely normal, but when i brought it up to a friend one time they were like “?????? WHAT???? YOU EAT PEANUT BUTTER AND HONEY???? TOGETHER????”
And im like “Yeah??????? Its no different than PB n J, its just… PB n H?????”
But then they asked around and then reported back to me that THEIR friends didn’t know what i was talking about, so…. As I was reminded of this convo by eating a PB and honey sandwich, i gotta wonder if that’s a thing you guys think is normal or if you’ve even heard of it.
I have heard of PB&J, peanut butter & banana, and even peanut butter & sweet pickle (that may be my dad’s own gross invention), but not peanut butter & honey.
It sounds delicious, though!
I’ve eaten peanut butter & honey, it’s delicious and Very Texture.
Also I’ve heard of Peanut butter & pickle before, so it’s not an invention exclusive to your dad.
i love peanut butter and honey but the one downside is that it’s a little dryer and a lot more sticky than pb and j, so you need the right bread for it.
yeah, ppl have just tried to flip grooming from 'intentionally and consistently acclimating someone for abuse' to 'there was an instance of sex or something taboo in something i read or watched or heard and therefore that person who made that thing was trying to force me to do that thing'.
for instance, a really weird thing i've seen begun to happen is that ppl in fandom spaces will accuse others of grooming minors bc they wrote a fic that featured something taboo like noncon or something and a minor complained about seeing it.
i don't get it past ppl wanting to be on a moral high or something.
I think it’s weird bc like, it doesn’t even line up with other uses of the word “grooming” in benign contexts like “they’re being groomed for success in business” means some kind of benevolent mentoring not “they read something”
It can’t be stressed enough how absolutely bizarre and diseased it is that we now have minors who complain that they’ve been exposed to mature content.
Absolute sicko shit. Minors since time immemorial have been sneaking into rated-R movies and passing around an ancient dog-eared Playboy.
The very concept of a teenager who comes across adult media and complains and tries to get someone in trouble for it, is absolutely revolting to me.
its ur duty as an older sibling or cousin to tell as many absurd lies to a child as possible so in the future it develops the critical thinking skills to know which posts on the internet are satire
