{"version": "1.0", "type": "rich", "title": "I\u2019ve basically had some sort of lesbian magnetism ever since I was peers with people who were old enough to have sexual...", "author_name": "kontextmaschine", "author_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "provider_name": "kontextmaschine", "provider_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "url": "https://kontextmaschine.com/post/75960484072/", "html": "<p>I\u2019ve basically had some sort of lesbian magnetism ever since I was peers with people who were old enough to have sexual identities - Meg Semisch in 6th grade when I had to walk up to the middle school to take Algebra I. I\u2019ve mentioned before that in elementary school I identified as female for a bit and maybe there\u2019s some sort of vibe from that, but even after that I remember calling myself a lesbian after that - jokingly, references to the Island of Lesbos, but now that I think of it \u201cjokingly\u201d in a way that didn\u2019t really have any humor payoff and that\u2019s kind of interesting.<br/><br/>Part of it\u2019s just a genderbent version of the stereotypical fag/hag dyad - I can come with relationship issues and get advice from the position of \u201cas someone romanced as a woman, let me explain some dynamics that might not be obvious/as someone who romances women, let me commiserate with you that bitches are crazy\u201d. But even sitting at a bar next to some lesbian stranger, chances are decent that within an hour we\u2019ll be buying each other shots and laughing our asses off.<br/><br/>I\u2019ve actually gotten more cautious about that in the last few years, after a few times when I\u2019ve opened up significantly in the expectation that sex was safely off the table and then had that rug pulled out. Which was itself interesting! To have, as a straight guy, that experience of \u201cOh I thought when you said \u2018watch a movie\u2019 you really meant watch a movie, but now I\u2019m drunk at your house with no way of getting home and you\u2019re running your hand up my thigh.\u201d I think part of what really threw me about it was just the lack of a script to deal with. If a girl flirts with me in front of her guy, depending on whether he looks happy or angry I can kind of figure out what\u2019s going on, and how to respond so as to bring about whatever desired outcome, but to hang out with a girl, and her girl, and then all of a sudden she\u2019s getting up on me it\u2019s totally fish out of water.</p>"}