The bisexuality was a pretty important breakthrough even for boy-girl stuff for just being much better able to model the mentality of a partner attracted to men, just being like “oh I’m not making her orally pleasure me, I’m letting her suck my dick” changes dynamics a lot.

Like, maybe I should have figured that better extrapolating from how I had liked eating pussy in a way gay men found disgusting and straight women at least didn’t identify with, but that misreading isn’t coming from nowhere, if you’re not personally into it and going off secondhand sense sucking dick is pretty strongly marked as denigratory, “suck my dick” isn’t a friendly offer.