\nSo something I have realized is Roissy/PUA-style “game” does not work as a normative guide to how you, a man who does not get pussy, can get pussy, but it is a 100% accurate descriptive account of how the guys who do get pussy get pussy, and anxiety is the mediating factor
Also “anxiety” is not something caused by the situations you’re in that conscious changes in will change but rather a permanent variable, per-person and biochemical, like “depression”
epiphenomenalism except the mind is real and getting physical is the epiphenomenon
wasn\u2019t it, like, entirely about training yourself to not feel anxiety about talking to women? Ancient third-hand knowledge informs me that they had a whole Thing about it, \u201cyour first thousand rejections don\u2019t count\u201d
Expecting someone with an anxiety disorder to voluntarily go through a thousand rejections is not practical, the anxiety is what makes the weight of a single rejection crushing.
People with anxiety disorders aren\u2019t the only people who experience anxiety, though.
the point was that a whole lot of people experience anxiety about this, and shouldn\u2019t, because the horrible consequences they\u2019re imagining mostly aren\u2019t going to happen and trying it a few times will show them that.
Hm. Well, I suppose the old personality had an anxiety disorder then, it was not something situations caused, it was something I had that affected my experience of situations. And now the new personality is apparently incapable of anxiety, so the concept of it as a contingent thing is forever foreign.
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