{"version": "1.0", "type": "rich", "title": "\u201cI think the most unfortunate clich\u00e9 in our sexual culture is the idea that women want confident men. Confidence, confidence,...", "author_name": "kontextmaschine", "author_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "provider_name": "kontextmaschine", "provider_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "url": "https://kontextmaschine.com/post/683088525079478272/", "html": "<p><a href=\"https://st-just.tumblr.com/post/683086936822398976/i-think-the-most-unfortunate-clich%C3%A9-in-our-sexual\" class=\"tumblr_blog\" target=\"_blank\">st-just</a>:</p><blockquote><blockquote>\u201cI think the most unfortunate clich\u00e9 in our sexual culture is the idea that women want confident men. Confidence, confidence, confidence, it\u2019s drilled into you endlessly as a young man. The trouble is that most dudes don\u2019t know how to perform confidence, and if you go to any meat market bar on a weekend night you\u2019ll see guys literally puff out their chests as they go to approach a woman and then go down in flames.\u201d</blockquote> <p>\u2014 Freddie deBoer <br/></p></blockquote>\n<p><b>Ton</b> of insight into this since the personality change, confidence as <i>outwardly</i> performed before didn&rsquo;t seem to really do it but (to remind, when a case of COVID proceeded into my nervous system and brain, totally wiping out my anxiety) the change yielded total <i>internal</i> confidence \u2013 doubts are not raised, or are acknowledged, addressed, and dissipate \u2013 and acting on the basis of <b>that</b> is a <i>huge</i> panty-dropper.</p><p>The one precedent that comes to mind was this college friend who was schizophrenic and was amazingly charismatic, could lead people <i>anywhere</i>, even on the basis of things that if anyone else said would be immediately recognizable as literally insane, because he had just absolute untroubled confidence in himself</p>"}