\nwhen i see radfems clutching their pearls about the term “milf” im baffled. people are going to find women sexy and want to have sex with them. recreating the idea of “the sexiest woman” to be 38 instead of 18 is a good thing. i personally hate the fetishization of virginity, and milfdom gets around that. we should be clowning as hard as possible on 40yo men who are no longer attracted to their wives after they gave birth 3 times. long live milfmania
like I\u2019m not a radfem and I\u2019m in favour of the general trend but like
it\u2019s not batshit to be skeeved at the division of Fuckable Women into virgins and mothers. What with \u2018dad bod\u2019 and DILF and such I\u2019m now fairly indifferent because it seems to be applying across the board, but there is a lot of what-is-history-for-some-of-us-and-the-present-for-others that might make that choice of appellation Not Sit Right with some people in a way that I find understandable
(I mean I also mostly think complaining about how people use language is a waste of time, but I do sometimes do it anyway just because it feels good to complain about things that annoy you)
I mean, the implied alternative to \u201cMILF\u201d is not virgin, it\u2019s \u201cgirl\u201d. \u201cMILF\u201d basically just means \u201ca woman over 30 who nonetheless is sexually desirable), and while I can someone could very reasonably object to having maturity equated with parenthood, or with \u201csexy but also over 30\u2033 being a marked category at all, the whole idea of \u201cMILFs\u201d as a thing was, I guess, to try to normalize the idea that older-but-not-even-actually-old women could be desirable. So any skeeviness really just seems to me like it\u2019s inherited from the broader culture of \u201ctalking casually about women you\u2019d like to fuck\u201d, which, OK, but I think I have to agree with the OP here that milfcourse probably improved things.
IDK, maybe I\u2019m just removed from this? I basically only ever hear people using the term in a jokey way. People who used it seriously in a context other than \u201csearching for porn\u201d seem like they\u2019d probably be kind of annoying, but I can\u2019t imagine they\u2019d be less annoying if they didn\u2019t have the concept of \u201cMILF\u201d.
The “MILF” concept really broke through with the character of “Stifler’s Mom” in American Pie (1999, jesus) where it was kinda specific to the context of high school such that you’re sexually mature yet still have people’s mothers in your social scene AS Someone’s Mother in a way that is fundamentally kind of weird to relate to anyone as an adult, there’s that
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