So since the personality change come to realize that basically the difference between “empathy” as I now know it (ability to read others’ emotions as legible) and “empathy” as I’ve heard it (nicey ALWAYYYYS give people anything they waaaaaant if they say that’ll save them from hurt)

is the latter is just former-motivated overstuffed-chair comfort at the expense of they who struggle and win or a lazy bonbon-munching personality shaped around an assurance of that comfort, and I’m astounded anyone ever respected it.