{"version": "1.0", "type": "rich", "title": "Is it a bad sign if I'm bi and fantasize about guys a lot but it's rarely ever really \"about\" the guy, and is instead always...", "author_name": "kontextmaschine", "author_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "provider_name": "kontextmaschine", "provider_url": "https://kontextmaschine.com", "url": "https://kontextmaschine.com/post/656017809705500673/", "html": "<div class=\"question\"><strong>Anonymous</strong> asked: <p>Is it a bad sign if I'm bi and fantasize about guys a lot but it's rarely ever really \"about\" the guy, and is instead always about me being desired and fem?</p></div>\n<p>Huh. I suddenly realize that I didn&rsquo;t really develop a taste for *being desired* by men (I&rsquo;m not joking when I say I relate to them as a top)</p><p>Whereas both my earlier desire to be treated as an object by women and I think my early, hard-hetero identification as female (because they were the ones I could feel as being of value and I wanted to find myself of value) <b>were</b> about myself as an object of desire</p><p>Uh, the sexualities developed under different psychological conditions to serve different psychological needs, I guess. I dunno if that helps <i>you</i> but I feel like your prompt was useful to <i>me</i></p>"}