\nHonestly pretty dissatisfied with both \u201cbi people dating people of the opposite gender are basically straight\u201d and \u201cbi people\u2019s attraction to people of the opposite gender is nothing like straight people\u2019s.\u201d I mean if I have to choose one I guess I\u2019ll pick the latter, given that in some of the circles I move in \u201cbasically straight\u201d means \u201cbasically an acceptable target,\u201d but I don\u2019t think either statement is actually true.
It\u2019s pretty clear to me that there are ways in which my attraction to women is similar to a straight guy\u2019s, and ways in which it definitely isn\u2019t. The evidence I\u2019ve seen as far as other people (which I\u2019ll grant isn\u2019t exhaustive) suggests this generalizes pretty well across bisexual populations, though it of course also varies from person to person (something the original discourse doesn\u2019t really account for).
As like, the person reading this who has been both straight and bisexual my takeaway sense is that sexual orientation is a question of whose sexual pleasure you resonate with and opposite-sex attraction is distinct as bisexual vs. straight because you’re also resonating with the senses they’re evoking within yourself
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