Like since my personality change led to a sexuality change I guess I’ve been thinking of myself as bi not pan cause – well, cause I internalized this stuff and its vocab in the 90s, really. But past that, if the same update that unlocked trans girls unlocked straight-up boys, am I really seeing them as girls?

On the other side with cis women, the physical and personality boundaries of who I’d go for have also extended, and the “mayybe but I’d probably be relating to them as women and that’s weird and not fair” asterisk about trans men has totally disappeared

Like, whether someone was really a girl or a boy mattered more to me when important aspects of my own self keyed off girls but not boys, I guess. But the flip side of living through this transition is I have a personal sense that if that is your thing, which is gonna be most people, it kinda does matter?