renniequeer:

Hot take but we actually do need more representation of healthy M/F relationships in media, and I personally feel like deriding intimate partner abuse as “straight culture” does a disservice to everyone. 

People in M/F relationships shouldn’t only see representation painting their relationships as inherently unhealthy and bad, because it normalizes abuse and makes it easier for abusers to take advantage of others. If “that’s just how straight relationships are,” fewer people will be able to recognize the warning signs of a dangerous situation. Also, not every M/F relationship is “straight,” because queer people can absolutely be in M/F relationships, and deserve to see themselves represented, too.

On the flip side, queer people shouldn’t be led to assume their relationships will never be unhealthy and bad. The vast majority of my social circle is queer, and I have seen some truly vile things happen to my friends because they didn’t really get an education on what abuse in queer relationships can look like.

I just feel like it’s irresponsible to paint toxic relationships as “a straight people thing.”