Also ‘cause I’ve apparently got a whole life of getting pissy about bisexual erasure to catch up on, it retrospectively bugs me that those prominent 80s/90s “antigay” men discovered to patronize male prostitutes/lovers were so often dismissed as self-hating gays, their marriages to women a fraud.

When it seems to me entirely plausible that guys married to women, comfortable pushing a vision of society where people are valued for their part in M/F relationships, but having sex with men might be bisexual, enjoying the traditional macher’s privilege of unilateral nonmonogamy.