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hrm, wish I had better ways to tell people that traits/skills they have are attractive, while also signaling that I\u2019m not hitting on them, while also not signaling\u00a0\u2018you are someone I have ruled out of the hitting-on category\u2019

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yeah since this personality change I realized I can charm people and that\u2019s great but now I have to calibrate \u201cI am trying to charm but not seduce you\u201d which is not an issue I ever had to deal with before

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fyi, if you ever want to write a seduction 101 post, I\u2019m quite interested in your take on that

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No I don’t know how many times I need to say this, I haven’t learned anything from this whole experience. Like I can recapitulate early Game insights all the way back to “ladder theory” about how flirting is push/pull at the same time, but it’s not that I’m acting from new insight, it’s just pure personality changes. I not only can make meaningless small talk now, I’m instinctively driven to.

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