hrm, wish I had better ways to tell people that traits/skills they have are attractive, while also signaling that I’m not...
hrm, wish I had better ways to tell people that traits/skills they have are attractive, while also signaling that I’m not hitting on them, while also not signaling ‘you are someone I have ruled out of the hitting-on category’
yeah since this personality change I realized I can charm people and that’s great but now I have to calibrate “I am trying to charm but not seduce you” which is not an issue I ever had to deal with before
fyi, if you ever want to write a seduction 101 post, I’m quite interested in your take on that
No I don’t know how many times I need to say this, I haven’t learned anything from this whole experience. Like I can recapitulate early Game insights all the way back to “ladder theory” about how flirting is push/pull at the same time, but it’s not that I’m acting from new insight, it’s just pure personality changes. I not only can make meaningless small talk now, I’m instinctively driven to.