etirabys:

hrm, wish I had better ways to tell people that traits/skills they have are attractive, while also signaling that I’m not hitting on them, while also not signaling ‘you are someone I have ruled out of the hitting-on category’

yeah since this personality change I realized I can charm people and that’s great but now I have to calibrate “I am trying to charm but not seduce you” which is not an issue I ever had to deal with before