Just thinking back to that time over a decade ago in LA where I was at Cha Cha on Glendale, near closing time, and I met this Disney animator and her wife.

And we really hit it off, I mean weren’t none of us sober, but in particular I’ve always seemed to really get along with lesbians, I do wonder if this is related to how I identified as a lesbian through a lot of puberty.

It was even a particularly lesbian bonding session, we clicked over an appreciation for the “Abby Winters” porn series, which was Australian girls schlicking or hooking up with each other that seemed a lot more “authentic” than the standard for “industry” porn back then

California has a 2am closing time and it was a weekend so they were like “come back to our place” and I was like “fuck yeah”, and it was this bungalow and they excitedly one-upped each other telling me about the elbow-grease renovations they’d made, which I had to laugh at, because lesbians.

And they poured more drinks and said I could sleep there tonight and called their guy friend to come over and put on a The Mighty Boosh DVD, and he showed up like half the way through the first episode and he looked like he had read all of Sandman before it was collected as graphic novels

But by the end of the episode the animator had started to run her hands through my hair and nuzzle me, and that made me put together a few things she had said, like oh she’s actually bi and it’s been a while and honestly if it was just us I would have but we were on a couch with two other people including HER WIFE

And then, and then the thing is her wife noticed it. And made a thing of it. But not in a way that could resolve it, she was relentlessly chipper, like “AWW LOOK [SHE] MADE A FRIEND” and then kept going on about how CUTE it was, and taking pictures, while this girl continued to grope me, and I couldn’t tell whether that meant they were in it together as predators or whether this was some passive-aggressive thing about forcefully projecting an innocent reading while reminding her that her WIFE was right there

And I tried to make eye contact with the guy friend for help or at least guidance and the look I got back was “I realize exactly how fucked up this is but I’m not the one who’s gonna solve it for you”, so after the second episode I pretended to pass out asleep and they left me alone with her and she gnawed on my neck for a while but eventually gave up

Anyway I ended up being Facebook friends with them and so I occasionally saw how their life was progressing; they bullshitted with their mates, they joined scenes and causes, they gradually drifted away from scenes and causes. The other year they had their first kid by artificial insemination and good for them and I decided it was time to stop following.

Anyway I don’t know exactly what Zoe Quinn’s shooting herself in the foot with right now, but if they try to tell you that being weird and neurotic and a little off about sex is specific to straight male vidya artists, nah