So I introduced this concept on 6/24/19
\u2018cause for a while I\u2019ve been expecting a cultural turn on correlation of forces grounds but it was severe enough I couldn\u2019t possibly imagine how anyone could get to narrativizing it from where we are, and I just found an answer-shaped idea, it\u2019s chillingly well precedented, the coalition that would be against it just spent the last decade defining themselves against each other, the premise and the motte are perfectly in line with modern goodthink, and the bailey is the most corrosive weapons-grade infohazard I\u2019ve ever seen
And since then first I heard all sorts of guesses, but it mostly seemed an excuse for people to pour their apocalypticisms out on me, no two were the same. But I meant \u201cinfohazard\u201d seriously, not just like dangerous forbidden knowledge but like encountering it changes your worldview in a way you can\u2019t shake
Okay.
It\u2019s \u201cRapekink\u201d.
The \u201cproblem\u201d is \u201cgee, how do we derail all this anti-rape fixation so it\u2019s not the defining element of our male-female relations\u201d and that\u2019s the key. Like, being raped, as a kink. Particularly, as a common nonvolitional response to being raped, processing a trauma that challenges your sense of self by eroticizing and \u201cowning\u201d it.
Presents as (overwhelmingly) female empowerment through owning your sexuality, a \u201cby the oppressed, for the oppressed\u201d, \u201cthere\u2019s no wrong way to be a survivor and it\u2019s not your place to tell people how to do it\u201d thing
The motte is \u201cif this is you don\u2019t be ashamed, it\u2019s more common than people admit, and accepting it and incorporating it into your sex life through things like \u2018consensual nonconsent\u2019 roleplay with a trusted partner is not only acceptably healthy but can be an affirmatively healing form of self-care\u201d
The bailey is \u201crapebaiting\u201d as practice, for when the thing about your NC kink is that it\u2019s not C
Mostly based on reddit, centered around one forum, but that\u2019s where our sexual unconscious is now that tumblr shook it off. (Because they wanted to dump all the middle schoolers off on somewhere with moderation, truefax. Like when I found the \u201cteacher crush community\u201d I was scrolling through intrigued and then you come across a picture tagged #me #underage and like haha, best of luck kid I\u2019m closing this window)
But expanding. New affiliate subreddits in the sidebar all the time, and I see its tropes leaching into other scenes. \u201cbaiting\u201d.
A lot of the stuff romanticized seems to be pretty borderline, like \u201cI went out to the club to get fucked and dressed and acted slutty enough that the guy I found and wanted to fuck didn\u2019t bother with foreplay or seeking affirmative consent\u201d or like \u201cmy boyfriend, who I\u2019ve repeatedly told I want to wake up with his dick inside me, stuck it in while I was sleeping\u201d, it verges on \u201cfree use\u201d kink
That\u2019s a homeostatic mechanism I didn\u2019t think about, the more things you call \u201crape\u201d the more people decide they have a thing for rape.
Then you get to stuff like \u201cI can\u2019t believe I\u2019m in college and still a virgin, someone PLEASE tell me how to look irresistably vulnerable at parties\u201d and it\u2019s like \u201chm\u201d
And how do you stop it? Antis all the time going off like \u201cjust cause you were TRAUMATIZED by X doesn\u2019t make it okay for you to EMBRACE X as a kink\u201d but they\u2019ve never actually got that established as a norm in a space they don\u2019t control and everyone\u2019s already hardened their spaces against their infiltration and they\u2019ve already passed their peak influence and are dismissible
Are you going to say they\u2019re being survivors wrong?
Going higher profile would mean the following ideas being introduced into the culture, that\u2019s the \u201cinfohazard\u201d bit, now you know it forever:
That last one - \u201crape shield\u201d laws introduced in the 70s-90s suppressed things re: the alleged victim in court cases. Your broader sexual experience, so they couldn\u2019t establish you as available unto up-for-grabs levels. But also about the experience, it was thought that was wielded against you for leverage-by-humiliation, \u201cdid you cum?\u201d that used to be something the defense lawyer would ask you under oath in open court
(I knew someone accused of rape in college but she later admitted it was false and it bugs me that in court it would be suppressed that she racked up a three-digit count that year walking from the shower to boys\u2019 rooms and dropping her robe; not cause it establishes her as unrapeably easy but as adrift and seeking attention with blunt instruments.)
They often identify an \u201corigin story\u201d, there are four typical origin stories
These aren\u2019t people *ignorant* of the proper way to do things, the story varies between \u201cI sought help through traditional victim-centered groups but I felt like my experience was erased and now I\u2019m glad to find people who center my voice\u201d and \u201cthis is what works for me and all that matters is self-care\u201d
Or \u201chu-hyuk, I just like rape\u201d. The lord of the rapekink subreddit is called PervOtaku, the other admins cross over with r/stupidslutsclub which feels similar in a consensual idiom, instead of setting you on a glidepath to rapebaiting it sets you on a glidepath to \u201cthe mall challenge\u201d
Some stories smell like fantasies, but part of the conceit is that people are defensively eroticizing experiences that were pretty grody in real life
Some stories you can tell are just fantasies if only because they were clearly concieved in third person omniscient and then rewritten in first person to fit the subreddit\u2019s thereapeutic framing device
But they\u2019ll ban you if you point that out. Creating a hostile environment for survivors and all.
Too many people show up being too believable for it all to be astroturf, product of some channer Discord.
Precedents:
That 1965 Sean Connery Playboy interview
I don\u2019t think there is anything particularly wrong about hitting a woman\u2013although I don\u2019t recommend doing it in the same way that you\u2019d hit a man. An openhanded slap is justified\u2013if all other alternatives fail and there has been plenty of warning. If a woman is a bitch, or hysterical, or bloody-minded continually, then I\u2019d do it.
Since Teddy Roosevelt, at least since Prohibition, at least at least since Generation of Vipers in \u201942 there was an elite male consensus that women had taken things over because men had failed to keep them in control, a big part of The 60s, its leadup and tail was a male assertion
As 2000s feminist bloggers pointed out at length, Norman Mailer and underground comix and all that midcentury male freedom was all about the freedom to relate to women for their fuck-value and thus treat unfuckable matrons as worthless. A good part of Soul On Ice was about reclaiming \u201crapist\u201d!
The Feminist Sex Wars of the 1980s
Like, this was very literally a thing the last time we went through this cycle, second-wavers were like And Therefore, Let\u2019s Suppress Valorization Of Power Dynamics In Male-Female Relations and the normies AND the Gorean nerds AND the BDSM lesbians and the emerging Foucauldian scholars were like \u201cbut wait it\u2019s HOT when women get hurt, it turns us on\u201d and they won
Also the emerging porn industry, today it\u2019s not so on its toes in the face of \u201cobscenity\u201d law but it seems pretty good at splashing money around when they need to, so let\u2019s hope
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