In one more bit of \u201cour revealed preferences as seen in sexual media indie erotica trends are probably a better guide to the actual cultural shifts going on than our publicly proclaimed ideologies\u201d:
I am starting to see more and more FtM \u201cfuck me like a girl\u201d posts in the erotica and roleplay subreddits and the gonewilds, especially the \u201cplz degrade me\u201d ones, because it\u2019s framed as misgendering as degradation
And a lot of times, kink fetishization seems to be how people reconcile their worldviews with the exact things they most don\u2019t want but nonetheless must admit exist in the world. So I\u2019m not saying they really want to be seen as women, might be a sign of the exact opposite.*
And yet, in the cis, hetero world there already exists a kink about men having their maleness denied, being proclaimed worthlessly female as a humiliation, being treated and fucked as women, being gaslit and manipulated into seeing themselves as women.
It is called \u201csissification\u201d, and interestingly this FtM \u201cmisgender me with your dick\u201d stuff doesn\u2019t seem to draw on or be aware of it at all, and it doesn\u2019t even seem to have convergently evolved to fetishize the same angles of it. If anything, it seems to combine hetero Fsub \u201cuse and degrade me irrespective of my wishes\u201d tropes with gay male yaoi seme/uke dynamics.
And I look back to last year when someone was like \u201call these FtM bandwagoners, they\u2019re really just fujoshi fangirls, y\u2019know\u201d, and I who had no sense there even was a trend to bandwagon was like \u201cno I didn\u2019t, what?\u201d
And now I\u2019m like \u201chm\u201d.
* though I mean, if you\u2019re offering yourself up on r/Misogynyfetish, you are asserting that degrading you constitutes \u201cmisogyny\u201d, so, hm.