In one more bit of “our revealed preferences as seen in sexual media indie erotica trends are probably a better guide to the actual cultural shifts going on than our publicly proclaimed ideologies”:

I am starting to see more and more FtM “fuck me like a girl” posts in the erotica and roleplay subreddits and the gonewilds, especially the “plz degrade me” ones, because it’s framed as misgendering as degradation

And a lot of times, kink fetishization seems to be how people reconcile their worldviews with the exact things they most don’t want but nonetheless must admit exist in the world. So I’m not saying they really want to be seen as women, might be a sign of the exact opposite.*

And yet, in the cis, hetero world there already exists a kink about men having their maleness denied, being proclaimed worthlessly female as a humiliation, being treated and fucked as women, being gaslit and manipulated into seeing themselves as women.

It is called “sissification”, and interestingly this FtM “misgender me with your dick” stuff doesn’t seem to draw on or be aware of it at all, and it doesn’t even seem to have convergently evolved to fetishize the same angles of it. If anything, it seems to combine hetero Fsub “use and degrade me irrespective of my wishes” tropes with gay male yaoi seme/uke dynamics.

And I look back to last year when someone was like “all these FtM bandwagoners, they’re really just fujoshi fangirls, y’know”, and I who had no sense there even was a trend to bandwagon was like “no I didn’t, what?”

And now I’m like “hm”.

* though I mean, if you’re offering yourself up on r/Misogynyfetish, you are asserting that degrading you constitutes “misogyny”, so, hm.