One interesting thing is the shifting roles of condoms in heterosexual culture Like, part (but not all) of the Sexual...
One interesting thing is the shifting roles of condoms in heterosexual culture
Like, part (but not all) of the Sexual Revolution dynamic was The Pill and now you didn’t have to worry about it! (As in, men didn’t have to worry about contraception, which was entirely on women now)
But then AIDS, which was part-cynically leveraged to reenchant condoms (or abstinence) even among straights
Remember the Austin Powers bit where the spy frozen in the Swinging Sixties and unfrozen in the 90s laughs off the concept of condoms as something for sailors? (who patronize cheap dockside prostitutes also patronized by other sailors from disease pools all over the world)
But that seems to have faded. Since the 2000s I see girls complaining that guys never want to wear condoms “any more”, the whole “stealthing” thing treats insistence on condoms as one of those female things you pretend to humor but certainly don’t actually respect
And then there’s the girls that want it. “creampie” as a fetish, the act of just ejaculating in a vagina as like a special niche sex act, you started to see that in the mid-2000s. You saw stuff called “creampie” before that but that was specifically eating semen out of the vagina, as part of cuckoldry or other Fdom humiliation, or in MFF threesomes as a way to get everyone in on the cumshot
And so now that’s advanced to the point where impreg risk is almost a mainstream hot part of heterosexuality, which gets a bit weird. Saw a reddit post that was like “my boyfriend stopped using condoms after a few months, and he’d be dirty talking to me like he was going to knock me up, and that was really hot, and I just thought of it as a hot kink, but then I actually became pregnant”
and
friend
Oh okay I looked back over that reddit post and though she never directly said it, reading between the lines she was herself on birth control, which is why she thought of barebacking with impreg dirty talk as a weightless lark. So the thing getting pregnant made her reevaluate wasn’t “wait, this is really how babby is formed?”, it was “wait, was he serious about the impreg thing and sabotaging my birth control?”, which is a lot more sympathetic and less ditzy.
So okay, that’s not a sign of “people are fetishizing insemination and impregnation so hard they forget that’s what sex is for”. But it is a sign of “people are fetishizing impregnation as a hostile, controlling act so hard they forget that some of the people vocally enthusiastic about impregnation as a hostile, controlling act actually want to impregnate women as a hostile, controlling act”
For one, that’s extremely relevant to the infohazard, which you will hear about before September
For two, there’s also themes of “being impregnated as a hostile, controlling act” floating around out there. “Forced orgasm”, don’t-let-him-pull-out, baby-trapping, “yandere”, as a way to steal him or lock him down.
That seems to have started with the by-women, for-women, power-dynamics-first world of erotic fanfiction, but professional studios are starting to introduce elements of it to the “step”-family incest brands they kicked off the post-gonzo Return of Plot with, or even create brands specifically for it.
And so if that’s becoming an equal part of our post-consent mainstream sexual imaginary, you wonder just how much kidding on the square it is.
Pregnant with anticipation for the infohazard.