So in talking about the distinctive porn- and social media-mediated post-millennial sexual culture…
\u201csexual media\u201d. okay I\u2019m gonna use that
So in talking about the distinctive post-millennial sexual media culture, I\u2019ve been talking about how it \u201creenchants heterosexuality with power gradients\u201d and it\u2019s heavily Fsub, but there\u2019s an exception that on thinking about it really just proves the rule
And it\u2019s the borrowed-from-hentai concept of the \u201cYandere\u201d, the \u201ccrazy eyes\u201d, obsessive, Cluster B, baby-trapping stalker, or knifeplay rapist psycho
And it\u2019s not exactly like that\u2019s a new idea in American culture, Basic Instinct and Fatal Attraction basically limned the type 30 years ago. The conceit of Gone Girl, signal text of our current sociosexual moment, was that Amy Dunne was a yandere the whole time underneath the \u201cCool Girl\u201d persona she was performing, a lot of noir \u201cfemme fatales\u201d were, effectively, yanderes
But in a moment full of all sorts of fetishized Fsub idioms \u2013 ageplay and impreg-as-conquest tropes are basically everywhere \u2013 it\u2019s like the only* Fdom idiom gaining traction, and that\u2019s striking. Not practice, maybe, a lot of streamer culture is basically mainstream findommeing, but it just shows how much of the sexual consciousness is in a \u201cMake Heterosexuality Predatory Again\u201d space when imagining a woman taking the sexual lead means imagining a woman as a predatory threat.
*okay not really, there\u2019s a much smaller rise in a \u201ctomboy\u201d idiom for assertively but consensually taking a sexual lead. I guess that makes sense, they don\u2019t all grow up to yell discourse in the #butch and #FtM tags, some of them become those Tinder girls with pictures of their CrossFit abs. Still, \u201cthe idiom for non-predatory sexual assertion is \u2018not really being a girl\u2019\u2018 is pretty striking in its own right.