neoliberal End of History Pareto Maximizing-era sensibility that by accepting ourselves as manipulable usable objects we could be the role models reconciling post-religion with internet connectivity/transparency

that if everyone would see thru us and know we were horrible the response was to go about our business WHILE OWNING our imperfections, Julia Alilson oversharing-style

THAT AS A MASK for bog-standard masochism tho

as a reaction against my parents in childhood as these things are, for caring for and helicoptering me avant la lettre in the 80s when I shoulda been a free latchkey kid while they chased themselves thru addictions or affairs