two things monetizeyourcat (PBUH) said that really stuck in my head are

1) a good way to tease out the political commitments underlying various comfort-loving centrisms is to ask the (historically accurate) question of whether you would support a communist revolution in order to preempt a fascist revolution, and vice versa

2) that men judging, instructing, correcting others, esp. women and children on how to think, feel, and be is in fact a genuine expression of care for others parallel to women’s acts of comforting; that men, as an owning class in patriarchy express as management what the laboring class of women express by emotional labor