severnayazemlya:

thathopeyetlives:

cyborgbutterflies:

chroniclesofrettek:

honey-andrevolution:

sexpot-titzgerald:

sprinklesobourbon:

thegestianpoet:

seansoo:

but why do we have to get married and have children

why can’t we just get a group of friends and live happily ever after in an apartment and share the profits

i’d be much happier that way

this is the most millennial thing ive ever read 

Nothing wrong with this, you can have roof parties and grill food.
Better yet just save up together and buy a small house split the bills and mortgage.

- the nuclear family as an economic unit has really only existed for a few hundred years, across part but not all of the world

- the nuclear family unit is the easiest to exploit under capitalism, because parents have to work externally to provide for their children. They work to pay for child care for their children while they work. They work to earn money to feed their kids and to give them nice things to make up for all the time they spend away, at work.

- a huge amount of labour is necessary every day to keep a family fed, their house clean, etc. some families are wealthy enough to outsource this by hiring staff, most are not.

- capitalism is a pointless middleman in this. we should just live cooperatively.

- share houses and intentional communities are awesome

- people of different life stages function well together because they have complimentary needs and abilities

- kids are less of a stress and burden in a home with lots of different adults to provide support and love, as well as sharing household tasks.

- destroy capitalism through cooperativism.

^^^

“- capitalism is a pointless middleman in this. we should just live cooperatively.”

Just make sure you have a friend who likes to clean, one who likes to cook, someone who likes to do laundry, someone who likes to take care of children, and make sure you’re all ok spending 50%+ of your time together without getting on each other’s nerves for a couple decades. A simple task for any neurodivergent, socially awkward person.

Sharing a house with many friends/romantic partners great and I can’t wait to do it.

But sharing a house with random strangers? People who might be abusive, mean, bigoted, or just plain impossible to deal with?

That sounds about as bad as family to me. I’m all for cooperation between people but at the same time I am scared because there are many out there who would hurt me and I’d rather have some input in deciding who to live with.

I don’t want to share a house with anyone but my wife and children. Every roommate I have ever had I ended up getting annoyed at.

But it could be very nice to live in a village, esp. a Weltraumburg fractal urban village.

what’s the history of the nuclear family? when/where did it originate?

emmanuel todd says it predates modernity: he thinks family structure influenced the development and speed-of-uptake of modernity, and for anyone whose name isn’t an australian seaworld park, causal relations can only travel in one direction in time.

this says it’s been around in at least part of europe for as far back as anyone can tell.

Historically, it’s completely typical for unmarried adults to live in semicommunal group housing. Not only with (extended) family but if away from home with people who are at least initially strangers - boarding houses, YMCAs, dormitories, fraternities, military barracks, work camps, residential hotels, social clubs and taverns with attached rooms.

The expectation that single adults will necessarily live individually in single-occupancy residences is of about as recent origin as the expectation that married adults will live in nuclear families in detached suburban houses.